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The Done Deal

“Do two walk together, unless they have agreed to meet?” — Amos 3:3 ESV

An excerpt from my book, Working in Us What is Pleasing to Him:

We had reached an impasse. My corporate team had analyzed performance trends and was revising our insurance pricing structure in one of our states, a joint effort we pursued with the office managers responsible for daily operations in [that] region. Opposing opinions led to fomenting frustrations, and though I knew we would reach an agreement, I reported our stalled status to my manager, who offered this helpful piece of advice. “When negotiating, don’t approach the matter as though across the table from an adversary, but from the same side of the table as though confronting a common enemy shoulder to shoulder.”1

He was right. Both corporate headquarters and regional offices operated under one enterprise umbrella, teammates striving toward the same overarching objectives and compensated under the same benefits plan. Unity was a given; we had just lost sight of it.

Similarly, we who are in Christ are one; this is a given, a “done deal.” Jesus pleaded in prayer that we who believe in Christ “may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us.”2 His petition has, in turn, become our reality, for Paul teaches us the Father is “over all and through all and in all,”3 as too “Christ is all, and in all.”4 In Christ, “all things hold together.”5 Through His sacrificial atonement and resurrection, we are made one with Him and one with each other. And as a people united, we band and stand together against a common enemy, “the evil one.”6

Then to a united people in Philippi, the apostle Paul admonishes, “Let your manner of life be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of you that you are standing firm in one spirit, with one mind striving side by side for the faith of the gospel, and not frightened in anything by your opponents.”7 His point: We are united and we must live united. Will there be differences and disagreements among us? Of course, so we must all the more commit to discerning truth together and to adjust our lives to what is true.

Armed in my boss’s advice, I reapproached the regional office manager, but this time more eager to listen and more patient to explain. Working shoulder to shoulder, we reached our agreement, grew our relationship in the process, and confronted our outside competition together. Unity won.

Father, Thank You for uniting us with Yourself through the atoning work of Your Son. Grace us to live in a manner consistent with who You have made us to be — a people unified in Christ. In His name we pray. Amen.

1 Paul Nordman, Working in Us What is Pleasing to Him, (Maitland, Florida: Xulon Press), 86.
2 John 17:21 NIV
3 Ephesians 4:6 ESV
4 Colossians 3:11 ESV
5 Colossians 1:17 ESV
6 Matthew 6:13 NIV
7 Philippians 1:27-28 ESV

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The Most Powerful Words in Your Quiver

Ours was a church-going family. We did not stay home, except when sick. (I must confess feigning illness on occasion, but my parents could detect malingering with amazing accuracy.) Every Sunday and without fail, our pastor preceded his sermon with this plea from the psalms: “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.” 1 Looking back, I still appreciate our pastor’s mindful submission to God’s ultimate authority before speaking on His behalf. Even now I petition the same from time to time; his influence resounds yet today. For our words penetrate deeply, far more than we can imagine, into the souls of those we encounter every day, be they strangers or those we hold dear. Therein lies a divine gift for us all, a ministry of life — the daily privilege to bless others through our speech. Consider the amazing impacts we can have all around us through . . . 

Words that strengthen others. Paul, for instance, wrote to the Corinthians in “the authority the Lord gave me for building you up, not for tearing you down.”2

Words that nourish. “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.”3

Words that heal. “The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”4

Words of encouragement. “Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.”5

Words that transform. Wrote Paul to the early church, “We will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ.”6

Words that speak life. Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.7

Jesus taught us, “What you say flows from what is in your heart.”8 And the apostle James exhorts us: “Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.”9 How worshipful it is when we incline our hearts to God and our tongues follow! How powerful when our hearts overflow in praise through our words. Words that strengthen. Words that nourish. Words that heal. Words that encourage. Words that transform. Words that speak life!

Can you imagine the Kingdom impact? The world awaits you — you and the blessing of your words.

“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.” Amen.

1 Psalms 19:14 RSV
2 2 Corinthians 13:10 NIV
3 Proverbs 16:24 ESV
4 Proverbs 12:18 NIV
5 Ephesians 4:29 NLT
6 Ephesians 4:14-15 NLT
7 Proverbs 15:4 NLT
8 Luke 6:45 NLT
9 James 3:9-10 NIV

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The Reckless Arrows in the Quiver

In his book, Above the Line, former Ohio State University football coach Urban Meyer shared leadership insights that helped guide the team — both on and off the field — through their 2014 national championship season. He recalled an incident in which a player learned his girlfriend was cheating on him. “They had an extremely heated argument . . . He could tell that he was on the brink of losing control . . . He was close to doing something terrible that could change the course of his life, and it was at that exact point that he pressed pause and called his position coach . . . The coach talked to him . . . and helped him step back from the torrent of emotions and get his mind right.”1

“Press pause,” think of it as a disciplined response — and a form of self-leadership — that helps one avoid regrettable reactions and choose reasonable responses instead. The young man in this scenario teetered precariously on the brink of physical violence, but the temptation to rash speech brings us to “press pause” crisis points, as well, and indeed more often. King Solomon observed, “When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.”2 We can also think of “press pause” as the wisdom to stop, think, and manage our emotions, instead of letting them master us. In so doing, we will find that the circumstances which might have led to internal suffering through verbal sniping can lead us in the way of blessing, instead. Again, from Solomon: “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”3 Isn’t this ultimately how we want to live our lives — as meaningful vessels for good?

Then how do we step back and get our mind right? First, consider Jesus’ liberating love for you. You are completely and forever forgiven and redeemed through His proactive love. Then when the “torrent of emotions” begins to swell up against another, look safely inside. For Jesus teaches us, “What you say flows from what is in your heart.”4 When we press pause and honestly examine our own fleshy motivations — retaliation and belittlement, for instance — those we might otherwise disparage emerge now as companions in need of grace, and rash words of harm can give way to wise words of healing.

“I will guard my ways, that I may not sin with my tongue; I will guard my mouth with a muzzle . . . ”5 — King David

“Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting!”6 In Christ I pray. Amen.

1 Urban Meyer. Above the Line: Lessons in Leadership and Life from a Championship Season. (Penguin Press, 2015), 49-50. (Emphasis added.)
2 Proverbs 10:19 ESV
3 Proverbs 12:18 ESV
4 Luke 6:45 NLT
5 Psalm 39:1 ESV
6 Psalm 139:23-24 ESV